What do you do when you find yourself feeling disappointed? What leads us to this feeling that something or someone has let us down? Is that we set our expectations too high and thus bring this on ourselves or is it that we have surrounded ourselves with people and things that are not meant to be a part of our journey and this is how they are weeded out? The feeling of being disappointed is one of the hardest to reconcile because this feeling is often created by outside forces so it seems we are helpless in avoiding it. However, being more conscious of the decisions we are making, the people that are involved in our lives and what our true expectations are will allow us to better prepare ourselves for this feeling. Don’t be afraid to put your faith into something, just know if it doesn’t work out there may be a greater cause at work and this negative situation may very well turn out to be a positive one. Prepare yourself for all possible outcomes in life and remember that every situation is working out just the way it was intended. Whether good or bad, everything happens for a reason.
Is there an expiration date on grudges? How long do you go around disliking or resenting another person because of something they may have done to you or the way they treated you? I suppose it could go on forever, but how exhausting would that be? Every time you hear that person’s name, see their face or think about the circumstance that brought you to these feelings you continue to trap yourself in a constant state of unhappiness. How much easier is it to say, I forgive you. It doesn’t matter if the person apologizes, it doesn’t matter if they are even sorry for what they did. What matters is that you have freed yourself from the burden of having to dislike that person forever. Holding that anger and pain inside only hurts you, not them. They will continue to live their lives and you will continue to feel that pain until you just let it go. Forgiving that person gives you back the control over your mind and your heart.
“To err is human, to forgive, divine.” ~ Alexander Pope
Have you ever heard the saying, “God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers?” Or how about, “God will never give you more than you can handle.” After hearing this did you immediately think, God got me confused with someone else because this is just too much! When life is really beating us up it is so easy to lose focus, lose faith in ourselves and lose hope that we will ever make it out. But God makes no mistakes, his plan for you is set and even when you have lost all hope he continues to believe in you. Just remember you’re not doing this alone, he is always by your side. You ARE a soldier and you WILL prevail. Never give up and know that he is there to catch you when you fall.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
How many people want to be in a relationship where the other person meets them halfway? 50/50 right? Wrong!! Relationships should be 100/100 all the time. Each person must give 100% of themselves in order to make it work. Now does this mean that the relationship is perfect? Absolutely not, but it does mean that each person has invested themselves completely and they value their connection equally. Too often we settle for less than 100% just so that we can have that connection, even though we know that there is something missing and that we deserve so much more. Don’t fall in love with the idea of the perfect relationship, fall in love with all of the imperfections, all of the good times and the bad. Fall in love with the person that is willing to give you the best them they can be.
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”- Mark 10:9